Designing

Intentional

Lives

Reflections on parenting, identity, design, and technology.

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★ Author | ★ AI Leader | ★ Founder

“Structure and beauty belong together — in our homes, in our families, in ourselves.” — Amie Bakare.

Stop–Start–Continue

A Gentle-ish Parenting Guide

Now Available on Amazon

Amie Bakare
Author
&
Founder
Sierra Leonean-
American Mom · Tech Leader · Author

— Meet Amie

Hi, I’m Amie.

Nice to meet you.

I help families design intentional lives — where the wisdom of where we came from meets the clarity of where we’re going.

I’m an author, AI Product Leader in pharma, and founder of SparkSynergy. Through Anxious African Mom, I write about parenting, identity, home design, and technology — always through the lens of a first-gen Sierra Leonean-American mom building something new.

Gentle-ish Parenting Breaking cycles with grace
Intentional Homes & Lifestyle Afro-modern design & everyday living
AI for Real Life Tech that works for you
First-Gen Identity Culture, grief & legacy
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— THE BOOK

STOP

START

CONTINUE

now available

A gentle-ish parenting framework for first-generation families. Borrowed from agile thinking, designed for real life.

Break cycles without losing yourself in the process

Reflect instead of react in high-stakes moments

Parent with awareness instead of pressure

STOP
START
CONTINUE
Now Available on Amazon

— Thought Pillars

Ideas I’m Exploring

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Gentle-ish Parenting

Breaking inherited cycles and building emotional awareness — without the guilt of imperfection.

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Intentional Homes & Lifestyle

Afro-modern design and everyday living — spaces and routines that support calm, creativity, and real family life.

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AI for Real Life

How technology supports everyday workflows, small businesses, and the life you’re building.

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First-Gen Identity

Navigating culture, grief, growth, and legacy — for those writing the first chapter of a new story.

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— New Here? —

Start With These

Three posts that will tell you everything you need to know about this space — and whether it’s for you.

💛 Motherhood

Intentional Living

The Art of Romanticizing Motherhood — My Version

What it really looks like to find beauty in the everyday chaos of raising children with intention.

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🏠 Home & Lifestyle

Design & Culture

African-Owned Decor Brands You’ll Love

Beautiful, intentional home goods from African-owned brands that deserve a place in your space.

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✨ Tech & AI

AI for Real Life

Best OSEA Dupes — How I Used AI to Compare Every Ingredient

I used AI to break down every ingredient in OSEA’s top products and find the best affordable alternatives.

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